David's mind

Hi David, I am 30 years and from Cross River state. I want to firstly thank you for this platform you have and I am hoping it would remedy my problem. I met this guy when I was still working in a company different from where I am now. This guy is wonderful, he is everything I need in a guy. I was having issues with my former place of work and he was the one who got me where I am working now which pays me better. I am 30, which makes it obvious that I have been having difficulties getting a husband. This issue makes me have sleepless nights, but this guy has given me some hope at least. Last two weeks, I realised I felt different health wise and I decided to go for a check-up. I discovered I am pregnant. I was shocked as he uses a CD each time, but yet this happened. I went ahead to tell him and at first he was trying to make sure I didn’t have anything to do with another person. But after he now told me what scattered my brain. Do you know that all this while, this man had a wi...

Hello David, thank you for your platform, I am hopeful you can help me solve this issue. My story is not what you hear every day, and I don’t know if you consider people like me. I am a sex worker and I don’t wish to bore you with what led me into this line of work. I am not proud of it, because no matter how much other ladies want to flaunt what we do and rebrand its reality, we sell our bodies which we should value the most, and that is the simple truth. It’s more painful because the price for our body is priceless, yet some sell as cheap as N500. Well, this is not what I am here to talk about. I am a banking and finance student in a federal university, and I have been using this ‘job’ to fend for myself. Thing is, I met this guy and he is wonderful. In fact, he is a blessing to my life, he has been strong for me in every aspect of my life. He really loves me and is planning in earnest to marry me. I just realised of recent that I am pregnant for him, which is a huge surprise to ...

Hi David, I am a teacher in a secondary school and I am 29. I have a business of making shoes and I run it myself. When I get back from work, I open my shop and start working. Little by little I have been able to get a place of my own and cannot beg for food at least. I have a girlfriend who is so beautiful and loving. I am planning on getting married to her, nothing in this world can stop it, well so I thought. We have only one problem, my profession. See, I have passion for teaching and that is the only thing I believe I can do so well. I love young children and grooming them. But my girlfriend keeps saying she can never marry a teacher. I got an offer from my uncle to come work in a bank, but I turned him down. When I told my girlfriend about it, she ran crazy, she went berserk. She couldn’t understand why I would turn down a lucrative job so we would marry as poor people. There is nothing my girlfriend has asked me for that I have never provided, why would she call me a poor ...

Dear David, I saw your ad about Cupid and I decided to write to you, I’m doubtful you will solve my problems but I have no one else to talk to. I am a Ghanian who resides in Nigeria cos I have a Nigerian mother. What I am about to tell you is a story you have to really calm down, put yourself in my shoes, before you answer. It all started when I was 17, I met him in my SS3, and I can’t forget that day. He was wearing a black jean and red polo with the face cap I stole from him years later. David, he is everything I need in a guy, I won’t just share my list. I made a promise that I would not have anything with a guy till I was done with secondary school, but since I was already in the last class, when he asked me out, I jumped in. All was rosy, yes we didn’t get to see all the time cos I was in a boarding school, but the minute I was back home, he’d show up on my doorsteps when my parents are out. We kept on this way till I was done with secondary school then I gained admission...

Funnily enough, each time someone starts a statement with, "With all due respect... " somehow an insult seems to be respectfully laid out at the end, but hopefully that won't be my aim. Dear reader, I’m filled with words on this topic, but I choose to use a few wisely, so my points would be absorbed appropriately. Feminism, the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities, this I suppose is its basic meaning. But I'm sure some people don't understand this word by this meaning, because it has been adulterated in so many ways to suit a society or even a person's style of life. A lot has been written, debates held and even organizations formed based on this fight, but the view is still not clear. I don't wish to go into history because it won't really remedy this situation, but I'll briefly state this, feminism is a concept for oppressed women in a society. Women who are denied the right to live like human beings because o...

                                                                                Used and Abused.                 Dear reader, writing this article is using a platform to inform a mode of conduct, tell me at the end if I am abusing it. I grew up to my present late twenties, moving through eight different states in Nigeria and coming in contact with at least nine ethnic groups. This has turned me during the earlier part of my age into a confused being and always put me in situations where I would argue with friends or...

Dear reader, let’s talk.                 Before we start, let’s take a breather. I’m not sure what you had in mind to read here when you clicked, but to be on a safe side, let me first agree with you; yes! You’re right. You can wear whatever you like. You can appear on whatever makes you comfortable. It’s ok really. But like I always do, I try to enlighten you on things you have probably not come across or ignored. You can now make your choice. There are some words I wish to bring you close to: ·          Decency: a behaviour that conforms to accepted standards of morality or respectability ·          Dress: a piece of clothing for women, girls , boys or men that covers the top half of the body and hangs down over the legs . ·          Value: the usefulness or importance of a particular item...

"Each time I get a glimpse of this past of mine, it's like hearing my father was dead once again, crazy racing of my heartbeat. A lot of darkness; regrets, pity, acrimony, pain, disdain, contempt, scorn, thickening the cloud. It's always the bad part of keeping up with the present and worse when I think of the future, so unsure, so incompetent, and so diffident I become. The guilt is so excruciating that I wonder if I'll ever find my way past it till my death; there is no easy way. Fornication, incest, adultery, stealing, lies upon lies, brutal words to a heart in need, a lot of good I failed to do, mastery of con... God, where does this even end? My heart feels stabbed."      My dear reader, I have a scar, so I write from my misery. Life does have its twists, its turns, its ups and its downs. While it does this, it sometimes leaves an indelible mark due to your actions and reactions through this rigorous path. Life is tunnel of so many channels, for you to go...